Are we doing too much for our children, so they don’t know how to entertain themselves?
As a parent I have never found myself saying so often ‘find something to do’. As a working parent there are times when I do have to focus on my work and not be able to be interact with my children, so they need to occupy themselves. School holidays means they are home even more, and I still have my work commitments! I do not encourage electronic games, but I am realistic, screens are a part of their world, of course I prefer imagination, creativity and physical activity, so I try to manage this as best I can, while working from home.
My eldest children never seemed to ‘hover’ when they were younger. They would get their toys and play, they would build cubbies, play games and get creative with craft. Now I seem to have to direct the younger ones every step of the way or they just seem to ‘wander’ and not be able to find something to do, except play on their video games. What has changed?
I have the realisation that the children don’t actually know how to do the activities that could be entertaining them.
My older children were in the day care centre with me when I worked, I was doing activities and playing with them whilst working. The younger children have not had that experience.
If I wasn’t spending the afternoons running my children around to their various activities I could be sitting with them at the table teaching them to do things like sewing or playing board games or in the kitchen cooking, or we could be in the back yard throwing hoops, learning hopscotch or making a garden.
They would know the skills needed, where to put things, how to use and manipulate items, the boundaries, and how to clean up afterwards. It also means we would know their capabilities and trust them to work on their own and hence self-entertain.
We want our children to be given opportunities to learn and participate, that is why we enrol them, in a sport, to play an instrument, to develop a skill. Should we also consciously factor in free time so we can spend time with them, and they will then learn how to use their initiative and be self-driven when needed?
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