When was the last time you went out, relaxed, and had fun, even staying out till 1am, let alone see the sunrise?
By 10pm and we are out, we are looking at the clock wondering if the kids are asleep, if the babysitter has coped okay and all is well at home. You see it often – the watch is being regularly checked, the phones are constantly being screened in case a message has come through or phone call from home been missed, there are knowing looks between partners. The relaxed mood shifts slightly as parents recognise their night is coming to an end soon.
But why does it have to end early just because you have kids at home? Who likes a good night out? What does a good night out look like now? It does not need to be partying like we did pre-kids. There comes a time when a dinner and a movie are a luxury, or maybe, just maybe a night to let loose is just what we need to de-stress from the last few days and to survive the coming week.
How do you overcome the idea that going out is a luxury, when it is really a need, and it does not have to be over early?
Firstly, recognise that you are entitled, and have earned the right to go out and have some me time. You spend so much time making sure the kids enjoy themselves with various activities and outings, you need your turn as well. This is the most important thing you need to recognise, and it is also important that your children realise you are more than a mum or a dad, you are an individual as well.
Next you need to know that your kids are in safe hands. Some families have the luxury of family and friends to babysit, although that is not always the best option depending on the circumstances. Availability, location, time frames, and the level of care provided all come in to account.
If you are without this type of support, do not think you cannot go out, there are babysitting agencies who have babysitters that are screened, trained and reputable.
Ask around, research, and call them for a chat. You need to find a babysitter or agency that allows flexibility with booking times that suit your needs. For example: If you are enjoying yourself, the last thing you want to do is to rush home to relieve the babysitter.
All bookings with Cherished Cherubs allow flexibility and if you are worried about leaving your children, you are able to arrange with the babysitter to phone you, or vice versa, during the night for peace of mind – as many times as it takes to reassure you.
So Perth parents, book the date … see you on the dance floor at the midnight café soon!